Jessica Tolson-Montgomery GUESS HE IS... ADEN IS W/ KEITH while Karin is w/ David Im DONE fuck this shit IM DONE!- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery He isnt a dad or a grandpa he didnt care if that baby had a home or food. I had to beg borrow and everything else to save the house and still am. and she has the nerve to call me a cry baby... some nerve Karin some nerve!....
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery thats fucked up. keirh had him 30 min then called ney to come get him cause he wont stay there...well if u were home where u belonged aden wouldnt b so damned confused and scared to stay with you. but thanks cause now i get to deal with his crying...some pappy you are!
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- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery I just can't believe that he has the nerve or that she thinks its ok... I mean shit if he wasn't being such a butt... and was at least trying to be civil like YOU or was like you & gave a shit if these kids had a safe place to live and food it would be one thing. but NO.... he didn't... so why should he have contact w/ my kids/grandkids? You know how I am Clinton. I can stay friends... but he wont even try
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery me neither. all i know is that Im tired of people wanting everything from me and not caring about my feelings...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery do u think Im wrong 4 wanting him to stay away from the kids all the kids?
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery cause some people think I am... they think he should get some type of visitation w/ the grandkids
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery My side is that 1. he left them w/ nothing. I never did that to anyone. I take in complete strangers when they need help let alone kids I love.... and 2.... everytime he sees aden it makes aden ask when pappy is coming home & beg to c him. Maybe if he dont see him his lil heart will forget him and heal... but thats not gonna happen if he keeps coming around...
Marg Cassada My opinion may or may not count but as I see it, Keith left Miss K. Along with Ellie and Jess. Not caring if they have food, a roof over their head, electric for the grand babies! If he cared he would at least helped out when everything was going to get shut off..... All he had to do was tell Jess to start doing something cause he is planning on leaving. But no he chose to leave her, kids and grand kids at the house knowing the bills were going to be due in a few days. Jess had no chance to have things arranged for the kids and grand kids. What if the electric was shut off for non payment? Where would those babies be? Would Keith have taken all the babies in?- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery HELL NO. he is living w/out worries w/ his mommy and daddy. he has a roof over his head, all the bills paid, a car to drive, and food in his stomach while the kids and I scrape to get by and try to keep it together.
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery To answer your question... IF the electric was shut off the kids would have to leave the house or CPS would take them PERIOD. He knew that & he didnt care.... all he cared about is the women he was chasing... Fuck his family... we can die and he wouldn't care...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery and whats worse... even after what he did... IF he needed something... I wouldn't be cold hearted enough to turn him down either...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery she thinks its ok 4 Keith to c the kids. probably cause she calls him to drive her everywhere
- Marg Cassada Sorry... Why would Miss K put Aden in Jeopardy not knowing if Keith would up and leave him with whomever?
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery as 4 him leaving aden... he wouldnt.... he'd send him home 1st... at least i believe he would... but then what do i know... i never expected him to be like he is now right?
Staci Ogden ·
OK, going to try to write this so that I don't sound like a cold hearted bitch. Everyone is going on Jes' story and while it is part of the story, it is not all. While I hate the way Keith left, I do not think he was obligated to be miserable. Things have been REALLY bad between them for quite a while. Keith left Jes because he couldn't take it any more. HE LEFT JES. In the process he had to leave the kids too. He feels like shit about the kids, but is it fair to make him stay if he was not happy? Jes is one of my best friends, but she has got to see things from other points of view. She has tunnel vision so bad that she can not see that she was not in a good relationship. At least not for the last year and a half. I wish I could give her the strength to move on and enjoy life, but she is set on being miserable because somewhere in that head of hers it says" If I give up without a fight, it means I never really cared". We all know how much you love him. but if he doesn't feel the same, MOVE ON and give someone else a chance. Give yourself a chance to be happy.- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery You are right there is two sides of every story and yes things were crazy the last year and a half BUT he NEVER ONCE tried to talk to me. He NEVER ONCE gave me a chance to fix anything. he PRETENDED that everything was ok. So, Why not say that, you know it's true. And now he refuses to speak to me about anything. That is NOT how couples are suppose to be. AT ALL. Ya know, I'm sorry that your opinion and mine do not match, but the fact is I KNOW what we had, I KNOW how I feel about him & I believe that he felt the same way before he quit being honest. I also believe that IF he would TRY that things could be fixed. BUT HE WONT TRY.
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery Telling me to "MOVE ON" is NOT helping, it only hurts. I'm NOT like him. I can't just love someone one day and say FUCK THEM the next. I can't just walk away from my home, my fiance, and my family and start chasing everything that comes my way. That would be disrespectful to me, keith, and anyone new that came along. I love Keith, my heart is with Keith, and you are right...I do not want to give up because I believe that it says that I never cared. Just like I have started believing that maybe he played me for 7 years and that maybe I was a fool for falling 4 his tricks. Of course its really hard to force myself to believe that when I'm honest with myself because I know how things were before he quit trying...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery As for the kids, I will continue to stand by what I keep saying. Those are MY blood kids/grandkids & He left US (Not just me the kids too). And yet, You make it sound like he cares, that he "feels bad"???? Thats njot right... do you treat people u love and care about like that? I don't. I don't treat people I don't care about like that. I didnt ever treat Dyl's X and her children this way and everyone knows how I feel about her... It wouldn't be right to do to the kids I still love.... Seriously here... Nothing is gonna change the way I feel about this. I lived it as a kid, and my kids lived it w/ their dads and every man that ever swore he cared about them... Now Keith walks out the day before everything was due. Just like Marg said... he never even gave me a chance to set anything up.... SO, he didnt care if the kids that he had raised over the past 7 years ate or had a home. And because of this I feel he has NO RIGHT to play games with them now. If he really gave a shit he would try to be civil 4 them but no he is sneaking around, parking down the street, and playing head games. & His contact with MY underage children is AGAINST my permission. I do NOT want him around them when I know he will only hurt their psychies in the long run. He needs to leave them the F*** alone if he isn't man enough to be a true father/grandfather just leave them alone! because everytime he comes near them he causes them to question and hurt. then I have to deal with it. I shouldn't be forced to deal w/ that when I'm already dealing with the wreck he left in my heart.
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery one more thing... you say he is SOOOOO happy now... well I was with him for 7 years... 1st thing he told me when he got here was how when he is anxious he cuts his hair and shaves his face... guess what he did that.... 2nd thing he told me was that whe...See More
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery I keep telling u that IF he would have tried a minor fraction of what I have/am to save our relationship before running away, we would NOT be going thru this now. It wouldn't have taken much... communication and honesty was the key. I was MORE THAN willing to listen and work on ANYTHING he wanted... I tried to get him to talk to me. He always said "I thought everything was fine...." even when I told him it wasn't that we needed to talk about things... he just kept letting what ever build up and kept lying to me and then walked away like 7 yrs didn't matter..... Well it matters to me. I never ever gave up on him or us... He gave up on me... It's all F***** up. I believe he was/is worth fighting for at least he is "worth it" when he is being the real Keith and not the new 37 year old Keith who is playing a 17 yr old internet heartless Casanova...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery What I want to know is.... why is it everyone says "fight for what you want; what you believe in... until you do, then its stop, forget it, walk away, move on, give up ur dreams, and any other statement that means the same? Is it that I should only fight for what other's want? Cause that is damn sure what you say when u say "MOVE ON".........
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery FOR THE RECORD: This in no way shape or form involves ANYONE not mentioned or apart of this convo..... this is only my way of venting what I am going thru and my own insecurities... please do NOT take it personal. The only person who should take it personal is KEITH!)
Billy Hall Sr. hey i am using bills page because jess has blocked me,i am keith's mom sandra and i know for a fact that he goes to bed at 10 every night and does not get up until 7 in morning,and i hear him snoring all night long,as for drinking ,he NEVER comes home drunk,he has 1-2 beers and thats not every night,he is an adult and should be allowed to go out and enjoy himself,as for the kids i LOVE them all and they come here to see me often,what do u want me to do jess tell them to stay away?i can't and won't do that.they may not be my blood,but i still love them. most of the time keithie is'nt here when they visit,and they call wanting keithie to do this and that for them and he always does,if he did'nt care he would not do stuff for them. and i feed them and give them money and we have done lots for you though the years and u don't say thanks,u act like it is owed u,i have bent over backwards foe u and the kids and u have the NERVE TO SAY FUCK HIS FAMILY,U NEVER TRYED TO FIT IN THIS FAMILY ,U say that its all out fault but its not,u are not innocent in your and keith's relationship, and u know it Quit blamming him for everything,u will never get him back by bitching about him all the time,i could geton here and really complain about some of the stuff you have done,but i won't because i don't want to hurt you and the kids,this is all i have to say.i am sorry things have turned out this way,but other ppl go though this too and that don't put it all over facebook. let it go .- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery 1st off I didnt block u sandy, and this is a new profile and u were never added. I didnt add alot of people because it was just too -big of a hassel- I let people find me. U never asked to friend me so u werent added.2nd, I could take screen shots that show him logging in and out and what the site says about where he is. -most the time he is 1600- or 500 feet from this house at night all- night it varies from 500- to 600 to 1200 to 1300- to 1400- feet so maybe u dont hear him. I dont know. All --I do know is what I do and that is pretty much nothing...
- 4. The kids visiting you... I never said they couldnt see you or big keith. You all- havent done anything and I never said u did. I know u help them and Im ok with that. For that matter I have nothing against u or big keith. at least u cared enough to help when he left.
5th I have ALWAYS thanked people 4 helping me/us. while together I even told keith he should thank you instead of running out w/out a word. I know u heard me do that. U use to tell me that it's just keithie. I didnt like it cause I felt it was wrong. but thats ok blame me.6th, Ive never said FUCK HIS FAMILY I say F*** u to him-. he did this not u. and while we r on the topic of family, NO I never felt like I fit in. W/ u and keith yes but not many others. I felt like a outsider that keithie brought in and that people didnt really want me or the kids but that they didnt tell us. So YES I stayed away. why go where u don't feel wanted? The way I seen it I was gonna marry him I loved him and thats all that really mattered as long as I tried to be polite when spoken to and didnt try to keep him away... - When are people gonna see that He lied to everyone including me and didn't talk to me about anything. For that matter- He is still lying to people, & Im still getting blamed & now ur on here trying to make him look better-. Its not right. he hid everything he did from you so u wouldnt judge him and now he gets away w/ it... AGAIN.... Like I keep saying this whole situation is a communication problem that will never be solved until he allows it to be.--- thats why I make the posts I do. He wont sit down w/ me like 2 adults and discuss anything. So I chose to address him in OUR world. The place that we go to vent, the place where we never just close our eyes and ears. NO we may not always speak to each other but we read the message & the point still gets to the person. I know u dont understand that but Its a whole different world than what ur use to. Like I said before my profile is usually private very very private. the only reason its open right now is so he can see and yes this IS the modern way that people handle it. I see it all the time. -- and as long as something is bothering me Ill turn to the only support system that I still have.
- I don't know Sandy, u say that he will never come back as long as Im bitching at him. I wouldnt bitch at him if he would just be a man and actually talk to me. Communicate with me and quit talking behind my back. U don't believe me when I tell u what he has told people but I know what they say. he did call me a fat ass, he did say he cheated on me twice last year w/outy me knowing, and he did go around trying to mess w/ several women-. Look up Lisa Movius on here see who he told that he wants to meet up w/ for S-pleasures and if u really want to see the convo between them Ill show u. I garentee u would be embarrassed by it. but I dont think u really want to know. I think everyone wants to blame me...So, I ask... What would u do? REALLY? what if u were in my shoes? U dont know what u would do but Im sure IF u really loved someone u wouldnt just stop loving them or trying to get them to listen.... IF u did... in my heart Id say u didnt love or care about them to begin with... So with that I say... I LOVE YOUR SON and no matter how bad he hurts me, I will ALWAYS love him. Thats just how it is. YES I will eventually move away, and thanks to my own stupidity 4 coming here I will lose my kids/grandkids in the process. But thats just one more thing I will have to live without not that anyone cares.........
- Before anyone says ANYTHING about me moving away.... Let me make this clear... I have never wanted to be here. From the moment I moved here I said so. Keith and I use to talk about moving away togather we even started buying this house so that after 5 years we could sell it and use the money to move. BUT the kids started having kids and then back in October Keith said he no longer wanted to move. I asked if we could at least move farther out of town he said he'd think about it. I would have stayed 4 him. I would have tried to live thru it just to be with him. But he was the only reason Ive stayed. And now that the kids have kids, they want to stay so that their kids can have their families... which I understand, but IF he isn't coming home, I'm gone anywhere than here the farther from the memories the better. Maybe if I can get somewhere bigger I can get that job I been looking for for 7 years and I can set up something so I can see my kids and grandkids from time to time but I won't hold my breath. Hell I havent seen Star since I been here.....
- ---Karin just came in and asked why Im saying FU to gma. I NEVER SAID FU TO ANY OF HIS FAMILY HIS PARENTS HAVE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO RECEIVE SUCH A STATEMENT... I SAID FU TO HIM other than that my only real FU statement was... 1. "Telling me to "MOVE ON" is NOT helping, it only hurts. I'm NOT like him. I can't just love someone one day and say FUCK THEM the next. I can't just walk away from my home, my fiance, and my family and start chasing everything that comes my way. That would be disrespectful to me, keith, and anyone new that came along." ...I don't see where that is a FU to anyone because I said I couldnt do my family that way... If only 4 the kids sake (cause I know Im not) I THOUGHT his family was still kin...-----------
- Marg Cassada I don't know many of you on here, but please STOP telling Jess to get over Keith. If a woman truly loves a man and he splits, it takes more than just 48 days to get over him. My husband and I have separated over 7 years and he still wants me to come back, 7 years! This will take time. And it will be a process. Time heals all wounds. If people don't like what Jess says when she vents, then get off her page! If you don't want to see the post, then delete her until she is over him. Don't dog her when she needs a shoulder to cry on. Hell, just listen and be quiet. After all she is just venting.........
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery WOW... I just reread this whole convo and I see where Sandy took 1 statement out of context.... I had said... "Fuck his family... we can die and he wouldn't care..."... she took it as fuck her... when if she would have read the WHOLE thing she would have seen what I was ACTUALLY saying... ME & THE KIDS not his blood family... but OUR family.... u know the family he created as his own.... OMG I swear people dont know me at all... like I would say that NOT...
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery People don't understand that Marg. they think calling him a sorry ass putting him down and telling me to get the F*** over him is helping. they think just because he moves on so eay that its normal.
- Jessica Tolson-Montgomery No one gives a rats ass about how I feel or how this effects me. They don't care that Im stuck or that Im in pain. all they care about is that I shut up and dont bother them. FACT, Im alone in this most the time. I have a friend that listens 24/7 when he dont have to. He don't even really know me and has been more supportive than most my friends. And that messes with my head. I would think that most my friends would know me by now and see that this is a different situation than Ive ever had before. Ive never had the inability to "move on" Ive never felt trapped by circumstances. But then my kids were young when I came here. They have never had kids before now and the laws that I'm living with now are different. They have a choice now they can use the laws to make me stay and they would. because they want their children to be around their family which I totally understand but it makes it impossible 4 me to leave right now. Im stuck here in this town that hates me, I try but I cant get a job and I dont have money 4 a car or parents who will buy me one. I dont even have gas money to put in a car if I did have one. IF I had a car Id hit the truckstop and clean trucks and EARN the money to pay the bills and get what we need but I dont have a way to do anything. I am stuck where I am w/ out any real help. YES KEITHS MOM & DAD HELPED alot since Ive been here but now that she misread something on this post she is pissed at me too.
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